For a number of years now, the self development market has been doing what it can to make people realise they are not victims – to allow them to find that they have an effect on the world. But, in recent years, so many people are conditioned to see themselves as victims.
This is mainly due to what is often described as’identity politics’, and this is where just about everyone is put into two groups. Someone is subsequently either going to be an oppressed victim or they’ll be an oppressive perpetrator.
The Departure of the Individual
When it comes to what will define whether someone belongs to first or the second group, the colour of their skin, their gender and their sexual orientation will play a huge part. Not only will this stop someone from being able to see other people as individuals, it will also prevent them from being able to see themselves as someone.
On the plus side, seeing the world this way will stop this individual from having to use their brain as much. Through putting people into different boxes and seeing the world as being black and white, they won’t expend as much mental energy.
So, though having a victim mentality was generally seen as something negative thanks in part to the self development industry, it’s become something that’s often viewed as something positive thanks to conditioning from the education system and the mainstream press.
Some people would say that this is the result of’Cultural Marxism’, but, whatever the cause is, it is clear that certain people are often encouraged to view themselves as victims in the present world. When someone has a victim mindset, they can see themselves as being a virtuous human being.
Two Sides The reason they will feel superior to other people is that they are going to feel that – unlike the men and women that are oppressing people – they’re not’oppressing’ anyone.
They aren’t likely to believe that certain men and women are empowered human beings that don’t need to oppress anybody to fulfil their needs; this is not a dynamic that will exist in their mind. The people who are empowered are then going to be thrown in the same box as the men and women who do oppress others, and these individuals are going to be immoral in comparison.
A Number of Benefits
This doesn’t mean that their needs won’t be met, however, and this is because their victim status will most likely allow them to receive things without needing to give anything in return. Being a victim is then likely to allow them to experience control in an underhand way.
They won’t need to work for anything; they will be entitled to have just about anything they need from the men and women that are allegedly holding them back. It will be like an invisible force is different, and that this force is controlling every part of their life.
A Quantity of Similarities
However, regardless of whether someone has bought into identity politics or simply feels like a victim, they’re unlikely believe they’ve much an effect on their life. Consequently, it will likely be normal for them to feel powerless, helpless, frustrated and angry, among other things.
They may be accustomed to spending time with people who are delighted to walk over them and to completely disregard their needs. If they are in a relationship, they might be with somebody who emotionally abuses themand, if they aren’t, they may have been with people like this in the past.
A Bleak Existence
In regards to their career – that’s if they have one – they might have a job that’s deeply unfulfilling. However, although they what they do drains them, it could be seen as the only option that’s available to them.
If they are on the other side of the fence, so to speak, and have not been able to have work, they could believe that the world is trying to hold them back. Something out there is then not permitting them to get ahead.
One is then likely to be simply an observer of the reality, meaning that they won’t play a role in how they experience life. They will be one individual who shows up in every experience they have, but this will not matter.
Their thoughts, feelings and what they think about the world and themselves, along with their behavior, will be irrelevant. And what is going to validate this outlook is they are most likely to spend time with those who experience life in a similar manner.
The reason someone like this considers that they don’t have an impact on their reality is most likely due to the fact that they are out of touch with their inner world and are too attached to their mind. If they could detach from their mind and to get in contact with what is taking place within them, they may have the ability to see how their outside world is mirroring back what’s occurring in their inner world.
It is then not they are only an observer of their reality; they’re actually playing a big part in the way they experience life. Bearing this in mind, they’re not being victimised by others, they are being victimised independently.
though it is not likely to be empowering for them to experience life this manner, it is likely to be what feels secure at a deeper level.
If they were to return on their childhood years, they may that that is wasn’t safe for them to express themselves. This would have caused them to associate staying small with being safe and it would have set them up to feel comfortable with being treated badly.
When it comes to letting go of a victim mentality, an individual may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.